Step 13 Quick Reference Card

Plan B: The 7 Steps

1. Empathy: “What’s going on for you about [problem]?”
2. Dig deeper: “Tell me more…”
3. Reflect: “So you’re saying…”
4. Your concern: “The thing is, when [problem], I [your concern].”
5. Invitation: “I wonder if we can figure this out together?”
6. Brainstorm: Write ALL ideas — don’t evaluate yet
7. Evaluate & try: “Which might work?” Pick one for 3-5 days.

Then: Reassess. “How did it go? Adjust?”

Key Mindset

• “Won’t” → “Can’t yet” (what skill is lagging?)
• “My solution” → “Our solution”
• Genuine curiosity > hidden agenda

For Twins (2-year-olds)

• Too young for Plan B
• Continue: micro-choices, practice runs, environmental support
• YOU observe patterns and solve on their behalf

Problem-Solving Time

• 10 min/week, same time
• “Anything hard this week?”
• Pick ONE thing to work on
• Review last week’s plan

Step 13 • Phase 5: Advanced Autonomy