FAQ: Common Questions

Quick answers to things the curriculum doesn’t cover in depth.

Sleep

Night-wakings with twins are brutal. Why doesn’t this curriculum address sleep?

Sleep is its own domain. This curriculum gives you tools for connection, regulation, and cooperation — but not a sleep plan.

What to know:

• If nights are a disaster, prioritize YOUR rest over everything in this curriculum
• Same tools apply at 3am: co-regulation, naming feelings, calm presence
• No need for special scripts — use what you know, just quieter
• Permission to not “teach” anything at 3am — just get through it

If you want a full approach: Look for resources aligned with this philosophy (connection-based, no cry-it-out). Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler (Jamie Glowacki) and The Happy Sleeper (Turgeon & Wright) are often recommended.

The mantra: Surviving the night is success.

Toileting

Why doesn’t this curriculum cover potty training?

Toilet learning is a huge topic that deserves its own treatment. The same principles apply:

• Brain states first — can they hear you?
• Co-regulation, not punishment
• Descriptive information, not shame
• Natural outcomes (wet clothes feel uncomfortable)

What to know:

• This curriculum doesn’t give step-by-step potty guidance
• Regression during toilet learning is normal and doesn’t mean the curriculum isn’t working
• Avoid power struggles — readiness matters more than method

If you want a full approach: Oh Crap! Potty Training (Jamie Glowacki) aligns reasonably well with this philosophy. Your pediatrician may also have recommendations.

Asynchronous Development

What if my child seems “behind” or very uneven compared to peers?

Neurodivergent development is often asynchronous — a child might be 6 in some domains and 10 in others. This isn’t a problem to fix; it’s a pattern to understand. The curriculum’s ND adaptations (see the summary in curriculum.md) and both the Buddhist and Waldorf lens companions emphasize patterns over rigid stages. If your child doesn’t match typical developmental timelines, nothing is wrong.

What About [Topic Not Covered]?

This curriculum focuses on the core parent-child dynamic. It doesn’t cover:

• Food/eating (picky eating, meal battles)
• Medical needs (chronic illness, developmental delays requiring specialists)
• School challenges (homework, bullying, academic struggles)
• Technology/screen time limits in detail

For these, the same foundation applies: brain states → connection → cooperation. But you may need specialized resources for the specifics.

Last updated: 2026-01-06